Oh my goodness! I have missed blogging but it has also been nice to cut out something in my life that I felt takes up some of my time when I can be doing something else. However, my life is too hectic, too funny, too complicated, and too crazy not to share. Being a stay at home is the VERY BEST job I could have ever received. It is the greatest gift God has given me. It is also one of the most challenging jobs at the same time. I have NEVER worked so hard in my life but I am loving every minute of it!
To play a little catch up for those who remember from previous posts, Libby was involved with First Steps. She was receiving services for speech. At 18 months old she had ZERO words and was just making a few animal sounds. Now at 2 years old and almost 2 months, she is talking up a storm. Sometimes I wonder why I didn't leave it alone..haha..only kidding. Some of the stuff she says impresses me. The child is so smart it is ridiculous and it makes it hard to always have to be a step ahead of her. Being smarter than a 2 year old is a constant challenge. She keeps me on my toes for sure! So to get to the point...Libby has officially tested out of speech because she has met or exceeded her goals. However, she still is receiving services through First Steps for BEHAVIOR...wa wa waaaaaaaa. Yes my little dirty blonde blue eyed precious angel is really a bad A$$!! We have someone come into our home on a weekly basis to work with me and Libby and then we have a behavior therapist make a trip from Frankfort 2 times a month to consult. Libby is one stubborn cookie! She does not accept no, she kicks, she bites, she whines, she scratches, she hits...she does it all! I feel like the poor child sits in time out half the day. We are working on it and it is a constant struggle but she will eventually learn. She is stubborn as a mule. When she gets an idea in her head, its her way or no way and no one will stop her (so she thinks). She is so strong willed for her age. I am so glad that God has blessed her with the traits. Sounds crazy right? Well if you think about it, as an adult I am super thrilled that my daughter is strong, independent, thinks for herself, stands up for herself, and doesnt put up with anything. However, these aren't such great traits as a child and she needs to learn there are boundaries! To help me not want to kill her every minute of the day, God has also blessed her with the best personality. She is funny, creative, smart, and keeps me laughing all day long! I laugh until I cry at least once a day. I know that's God's way of keeping me strong and help me love her through the tantrums. Libby has difficulty transitioning in activities, and has a hard time being directed without turning aggressive. As long as she is happy she is good but when its time to transition, leave an activity, be told no, it's on like donkey kong! lol.
To get to my point finally.....God has created all children differently! So much of a child's personality is formed at birth. To say that isn't true is to say that God has created us all the same which is certainly not true. We can try to teach a child what is right, what is wrong, but so much is innate. They see the world from such a different way and perspective. I never taught Libby to hit or bite, she did that on her own. All I can do is teach her that is wrong. Kynleigh (who is now 9 months) is the total opposite of Libby. She is laid back, happy, easy-going, calm, hardly ever upset. She is so good. At this age, kids are learning and exploring their boundaries. For someone, especially who does not have children to judge me, my parenting and my child when she is in a fit of rage is ridiculous. I have two children from both the same mother and father that are complete opposites. I did not teach Libby to be the way she is, and nothing I did made her the way she is. To judge me just makes you look ignorant. Everyone has an opinion on how they would do it or what I am doing wrong but if you dont live in my shoes on a daily basis it's best to keep your thoughts to yourself cause you have no idea. I have really struggled with people's looks, stares, comments, etc. I have prayed about it and have moved on. I dont hold anything against anyone but it does hurt and it is unfair.
Well I will stop there but there is so much more to come so stay tuned : )
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...and I'm bringing Isaac over for a play date?! HAHAHA Jk!!! Wow - wonder what's in store for Lauren when she gets older....complete opposite of Isaac at this age!
ReplyDeleteAs for what people think or say about your parenting... All we can do is realize we are all imperfect people in an imperfect world. We are given challenges that shape and mold us into the people we are. Now you'll be armed with techniques and strategies when someone asks you on advice for discipling a strong willed child. Your kids have a loving mother and father, a home, enough food and clothes. You are taking care of your kids the best way you know how. :)